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WestRomeMommy wrote: I don't even want to admit to this, but, alas, my oldest child stayed here too, though it was 2001-2003. I NEVER had any suspicions of things like this. She loved my son like he was her own, and her middle son ( not the one charged) even went with me home to play or to the park with some friends a few times (he was elementary age at the time). She did, however run errands frequently, leaving her Mom or grandmother in charge. The boys were always in school. I am sad for this family. They are a good family. I am praying for everyone involved.
This is the MAIN reason I pulled my child out .... SHE was not there and SHE could not tell me what did or did not happen. I'd see her out all over town EVERY DAY, while my child was supposedly in HER care. I was told the Grandmother and/or Mother would help at times. HELP ... not be in charge in her absence. I believe one of them was undergoing cancer treatments and slept a good bit. I'll not "knock" her, but there is no way she could have been attentive to anything going on.
As far as the boys being in school -- my child was not school age at the time AND stayed til 5, so the boys were home then. There were other mailes that were "in charge" as well. In fact, the day the "alleged" event took place with my child .... she wasn't even there when my husband picked up our child. I think many parents were at work and never realized how much she was gone. I'll probably NEVER know what actually happened ... BUT the fact remains I payed HER to watch my child and entrusted my child to HER ..... she was not there and could not tell me what did or did not happen.
I am very upset, and have been for years ... that she was able to obtain a daycare license. How do they give those things out ? Like Happy Meals at McDonalds ? Do they not verify that she stays there to care for the kids ? Do they ever talk to families who have utilized her services prior to obtaining the license ? She was not licensed the entire time ... not when my child was there, but I was told they were "good people" and thought it would be "safer" for my child to stay in a good Christian home, rather than toss her in a public daycare .... boy was I wrong.
I was so sick of hearing they are a good family .... there are good families with folks in jail right now, so that has no bearing on my feelings. To ice the cake, as a Mother, she could not relate to the REASON I pulled my child out ... because she wasn't there ..... how could any mother NOT feel the same way ??? She continued to try and assure me that NOTHING happened. How could she possibly know ??
Folks, this was 4 1/2 years ago ... how many children have been in/out of her care ? 4 1/2 years ago, the "accused" would have been 13-14. Was HE the "one" back then ? There were other males left in charge as well.
I think there should be some type of negligence charge on her part. She was confronted with this on at least THREE occasions .... by 3 different families (and these are the only ones I know about). Wouldn't that sit wrong with you if you were a parent ? or entrusted with the care of another's child ?? Even if you thought something could not have happened, wouldn't you cover your butt and stay there and MAKE SURE ??
Entrusting your child to the care of someone else is something that is difficult for me to do. I am VERY overprotective now. I had to have a "talk" with my child before she was 2 years old.
Parents, I urge you ..... be straight forward with your children, make sure to tell them WHAT is off limits and instill in them the mindset to tell you if ANYONE crosses the line. When you feel uneasy about something, go with your gut. Don't settle for anyone telling you they are "good people". Heck my family is "good people", but like Deaglos .... if anyone of them did something to my child ..... I'd be behind bars too. If I had done this, I would have pulled my child out of that the 2nd time or so that I saw her running her "errands".
West Rome Mommy, as for children that were in her care, and haven't expressed anything happened, I would call the investigator and ask them the best way to approach this with your child. I would ask, somehow ... someway .... I would HAVE to know.
Another thing that bothers me here is that this allegation was not just a "curiousity" thing for a normal teenager ... the "acts" would appear to have possibly escalated. A gun ? Hello .... HOW does this happen ? WHAT put these thoughts into his mind ? WHAT has he witnessed or experienced to have wanted to do this to another person ??
Additionally, if you think she was there all time .... think about this .... the "accused" would have almost been sure it would be a WHILE before SHE returned .... which would be a regular occurence .... allowing him time to do this. Also, if you think the older lady mentioned was "attentive" to what was happened .... where was she at, what was she doing during this "alleged" event ?? Come on folks .... something is just not right here.
I probably have already said too much .... but I didn't sleep all night ..... and this is weighing heavy on my heart. I truly hope that justice will prevail, and that God will give each of us the peace of knowing our children are no longer in that home.
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